Posted by Larry Hoover on April 18, 2005, at 10:00:20
In reply to Re: In and of Itself.. Damos, posted by antigua on April 18, 2005, at 9:41:56
> I've been reading this thread and all I have to say is that you apear to be an incredible person. You seem to know yourself so well. I'm sorry you face all this, I truly am. Don't give up hope, though.
> antiguaI've got to agree....he seems to know himself really well. That is about 90% of the work, already done, to effect change.
The hardest thing about changing is knowing what it is that might be changed. You might note, I'm adopting a non-judgmental language set. Change is neither bad nor good. It's merely different.
If you can adopt some sense of this dispassionate observer status, change can happen before your eyes.
One of the aspects of change that is self-limiting is failing to communicate with another during such an event. You can't work on changing how you relate to a sexual partner unless you're with one, for example. And leaving uncomfortable behaviours unexplained promotes speculation in your partner's mind.....best to just talk about it a bit.
What is see is our friend Damos ready to do some experiments with respect to change.
Sorry to barge in like this....
Lar
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