Posted by Spoc on April 8, 2005, at 16:46:55
In reply to Re: Can't afford the maintenance, posted by used2b on April 8, 2005, at 15:14:14
I don't mean any of this in a bad way either, and will in similar fashion use that to herald the imparting on you of things you aren't realizing here.
> I'm confirming that there are some things that might be nice to do, but they are just not likely to happen.
> I'm responding by asserting why I could not.Thing is I did not ask or mean for you to do even that. And you don't know me either, and as such can't conclude whether that is accurate. Really, I do understand that you have probably run into the same "techniques" and opinions so many times that this is all just reflex for you. But it just isn't what's going down here. And based on what you've been through yourself in life, I know you wouldn't condone those who think they know the right and only answer/assessment putting others in boxes.
> I'm not responding to the propriety or to the spirit of your responses, which is what you seem to be defending.
I'm not defending period. Like you believe you are, I am only showing you where you are mistaken in your assessments and processes in regard to myself.
> I'm responding in logical detail to the suggestions you make, that I could be one of these things.
Mere, straight, logical detail doesn't normally come with the particular tone featured in your replies.
> Old world beliefs that I would go farther if I try harder are just not relevant to me today.
Now this IS a good example of pure projection, which would no doubt be unanimously agreed from the script that has accrued here, in any qualified place even of your own choosing.
By way of what could even conceivably have been misperceived anyway, allusions to your willingness or unwillingness to make an effort, or the spouting of cliches and truisms, would not be amongst them. Try looking back here for even a strong connection to such a thing.
> Know it or not, you are writing things to me that prompt responses you want to hear so you can rebut them. And you are offering rebuttal statements probably for your own benefit,
That is what I posit you are doing. From the very beginning of this destined-not-to-live up thread. And I too am over here shaking my head benevolently that you don't realize this.
And by way of historical evidence, I for one am extrememly well known for wanting to stay out of threads and off the Internet to the extent I can muster. Including by the other individual present here. Highly contrary to what you theorize, I would have loved it beyond words if you had taken the rose to just be a rose, and offered no response at all (and repeat, you assume but do not know that I wanted any response of any kind). Or, would have preferred not to have ever seen this thread or any other, in my desire to disconnect.
In fact I even chose this thread for its potential NOT to generate any response, and I don't mean by way of "stumping" you or leaving you speeechless. But because... it was ONLY a freestanding, random, non-baiting compliment. Heck, even one that might momentarily impact the ahedonia. Or not. What matter was it to me. How could it POSSIBLY result in anything, I thought at the time.
And here again, I am not subconsciously or unconsciously seeking the last word, or to trigger another reply. I reply because I am as convinced as you are that you are quite mistaken about me and what makes me tick, including here; as well as about yourself and your unconscious reasons for participating and continuing to participate.
You do not in fact know the accurate answer to this. Would that it could be enough to put this to bed if I say, and mean, that I do not either. Hopefully from here we can at least agree not to make assumptions about the complexity of the other. In fact, to do so with this amount of knowledge of each other would actually negate the viability of the position of the party claiming it.
And again like you, I doubt anything else that is valid or relevant could or should be added here. If I bow out now know that it won't be because you finally delivered a poignant or poignant enough point, it is just time. So have at it if you wish.
Still, wishing you the best, whatever that might be.
poster:Spoc
thread:478418
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