Posted by sunny10 on March 24, 2005, at 9:05:23
In reply to Re: Am I wrong?, posted by woolav on March 23, 2005, at 22:06:42
humans make mistakes. Maybe your husband ISN'T the ONE. But maybe he is and marriage is just more work than you anticipated.
And here's the cynical part... You know how I told you about the "overwhelming talk that made things better"? Well, it didn't work out the way I'd hoped.
My SO is using drugs. Cocaine killed his brother and he is still using it himself. So much for conversation about "our" future...
Life is short. Try not to spend a lot of time wondering what the heck you're doing. Talk to your husband. See if he feels the same way as you. Brainstorm with him to figure out whether after 8 months there is still a future for the two of you.
Maybe he'll turn out like my SO, but maybe he won't. You'll never be sure where you stand in your marriage unless you can communicate.
I guess I happen to be learning that I don't have a future with my SO. I'm really sad and I'm really stuck living with him until the end of our lease in Aug. 2006! Sigh... as you see, life is short, and you don't want to wind up throwing years away by pretending things are fine so a fight doesn't ensue like I am now forced to do...
I really feel for you. The cynical side of me is screaming "run, run for your life", but I realize that your husband and my SO are different men and no two are exactly alike. All I can say is talk to him. What exactly have you got to lose?
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