Posted by jay on February 20, 2005, at 7:30:15
In reply to Re: Oh sweet miracle .. » jay, posted by fallsfall on February 19, 2005, at 13:35:57
> I'm glad you met someone nice! Just take it slow and see what happens. You will probably date a lot of women before you find your "perfect match". If you can try to just have a good time, and get used to doing things with women, things will work out great for you.
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> Leave your previous girl in your past. She obviously wasn't a good match for you. But that doesn't necessarily mean that there was anything awful about her, or awful about you. It just means that you weren't a good pair. I know that you are angry at her, but I guess I would see it more that the compatability wasn't there. There *are* women out there who will be compatable with you - and there are men out there who will be compatable with her. You just have to keep looking around until you find one.
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> I was married for 19 years. I have been on a couple of dates since. So I know how tempting it is to say "Ah Ha! I've found *the* one!" and to wish that was true, and to fight to *make* it true. But I think (I'm not saying that *I* can do this...) that it is more successful to let things progress at their own pace - or not progress. It is a process. It will take time. Not everyone will be a good fit for you. Try to enjoy the process.
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>Thanks Falls...I am really going to go at a nice slow speed with this one, and she has agreed too. We both have our careers and school to finnish, want to get established, and go from there. She is just a nice, intelligent person to be around, and really, really cares about issues (social issues) and doing good for the world, in the same manner I do. So, over the next year and a half, to two years, we will see how it goes.
Thanks for your post!
Best,
Jay
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