Posted by gardenergirl on February 12, 2005, at 9:45:05
In reply to Support versus Education, posted by alexandra_k on February 11, 2005, at 20:11:42
Not to stir up board comparison controversy again...this is just my own observation and my own preference....
One of the things I really love about Babble is that I get both support and advice/education. I think part of that is because people here know me, and as Jujube quite beautifully pointed out, you develop a sense for what the person is asking for, and what else they might be able to consider that maybe they hadn't thought of.
My experience at another site is that unless I specifically ask for advice, I get supportive posts in return. Nothing wrong with that, but I guess because I'm not really known there and have not developed the relationships there as I have here, they seem less satisfying to me.
In regards to your situation over at the other site, I babblemailed you on it. But I also want to agree with AllDone about the do not post to me thing. Of course asking on one board does not preclude you from posting on another, but I think this poster is not inclined to appreciate any posts from you right now, since she has asked you not to post.
I did see what you were trying to say in the post that was deleted. I know I would value someone pointing me in a direction to look that maybe I hadn't thought of. Especially if they had had the opportunity to observe something in me that might fit. And especially if we had a relationship where I trusted their judgement.
I think education is good. And there is a difference between education and advice, imo. I see that clearly at times in posts here that perhaps sometimes do not have the effect that the author may have intended. Although I am inferring intent and responding to their posts as an individual, so I guess you can't generalize from my own observations. (backpedal backpedal backpedal)
So, there are my associations to your situation. For what it's worth...
One thing I appreciate about your posts, alexandra, is the critical thinking you put into them. Always makes me think, too.
Warmly,
gg
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