Posted by sunny10 on February 1, 2005, at 12:41:07
We feel this way because we were TAUGHT to feel this way. And, worse still, we were taught to take care of everyone else. We are taught, still, in 2005, that women are less than men. The media teaches us this- it's not morally wrong to see full frontal female nudity in a rater "R" movie, but it is to see male! And every TV ad is sold by a beautiful woman( if a male is even IN an ad, he doesn't have to be gorgeous- and he also doesn't have to be only half-dressed). We are "free bait". Our bosses teach us this when they pay a man more to do the same job we do.
And we are still being brought up by our mothers and fathers with THEIR parents values, and so on.
Now, take all of THAT and add on the fact that we had other, unusual, circumstances that led us to depression.
Yes, we have a tough row to hoe. But, guess what? We are also the more resilient of God's creatures! If men had to bear the children we would have been extinct! Even my SO thinks so- he KNOWS he bears a lot less burden being a male.
We are strong. Our conversations here show intelligence, too. And we obviously have love in our hearts.
So the part we need to practice is loving ourselves IN SPITE of the lessons that have been taught to us.
Get mad at those lessons. You know they are grossly unfair. You know that what we have been through in life is grossly unfair. Get mad- get proactive. Decide to live your life how YOU want to live it BECAUSE society acts like it couldn't care less. Tell yourself to do exactly the kinds of things for yourself that you tell your friends and relatives to do for themselves. They are no better than you- you were just brought up to THINK that they were. But, guess what, they were brought up by the same society which is why you have to tell THEM to be nice to themselves.
I have great love and respect for both of you.
-sunny10
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