Posted by tampagirl70 on January 5, 2005, at 11:12:17
In reply to Work, boredom, marriage » tampagirl70, posted by partlycloudy on January 5, 2005, at 10:42:07
I've been seeing a therapist but I'm not sure if he's right for me. I found a woman that I'm going to see on the 17th. I'd like to have a woman instead of a man because I feel like I could be more open with her about sexual issues and she would have a better perspective on it since she's a woman as well.
I've been with my husband for almost 12 years, about 9 of those married. I get worried and obsess that I won't want him to touch me or I won't like the sound of his voice, or what made me feel comfortable and/or secure won't make me feel that way at some point, and when that happens, what do I do? How do I find the next thing that'll make me content/safe with him?
The past couple times he's wanted to fool around, I've had a yeast infection or my period, so I wasn't in the mood either time. But I started feeling guilty about it and then, of course, I started worrying/obsessing that there's something wrong with me and/or the relationship which is why I'm not that interested in sex. It would be this way with any guy I was with for this long (at least I believe it would be), so I don't think its anything related specifically to my husband.
The holidays were stressful and I'm sad when they're over, but I want to get back to normal. I'm hoping I can feel that way soon. Congrats on going back to work! What do you do?
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