Posted by Snoozin on December 28, 2004, at 8:44:53
In reply to Feeling weak and needy, posted by Cass on December 27, 2004, at 20:07:15
Oh, jeez, I feel the *same* way, so often! I can so relate to not being able to write checks. Is there any end in sight to the financial issue? *That* itself is probably what's making you feel vulnerable. I know when I finally get financial stuff under control, I feel so much better. When it's scr*wed up, I have nightmares about dying, being in car accidents, all that.
I don't know if this is right or not, but I personally believe having fantasies are a *good* thing. I think they are a good coping mechanism as long as they don't take over your life. I do it all the time, and in them, I am perfect, can sing, all the men want me, and I have a brilliant sense of humor and am to-die-for gorgeous! :-)
Anyway, are there any unrelated activities you can do with your husband that don't directly revolve around the finances or asking for emotional support? I just read this book that said men feel most intimate with their partners when they are doing some activity together. Don't know if it's true or not, but maybe hanging out with him a bit might make him feel more intimate emotionally, and then you'd get more support like you need and deserve.
Just a thought. If you are interested in the book, it's "Why We Love" It's all about the chemical processes our bodies go through to produce romantic love. It has some interesting theories on depression and love, as well, including how SSRIs affect our ability to love.
Hope things feel better soon. Thinking of you,
Susan
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