Posted by fallsfall on December 15, 2004, at 9:40:19
In reply to Re: Let me clarify, my T is right about my son, posted by Angel Girl on December 15, 2004, at 3:30:38
Mental illnesses seem usually to be a combination of nature and nurture. For some people it is more nature, for others it is more nurture. It sounds like your son does have a problem. But it also sounds like you did an awful lot for him as his mother. Your list has a couple of items that indicate to me that his problems may be more nature-related than nurture-related:
behavior problems his entire life, including childhood
first started therapy in kindergarden
deep-seeded anger/rage starting in childhoodThese things suggest to me that he was born with a "difficult temperment", and also that you actively tried to do what you could to help him.
It is *his* job to grow up to be a good person. A mother cannot *create* a good person. A mother can only guide her child and try to help them go in the right direction. The ultimate decision about what direction a child goes in is solely up to the child.
He is lucky to have a mother who loves him and who cares about him.
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