Posted by JenStar on November 16, 2004, at 15:22:49
In reply to Husband doesn't understand..how do I handle this?, posted by tampagirl70 on November 16, 2004, at 14:43:53
hi tampagirl70,
I'm sorry you're feeling depressed! I hope you feel better soon.Here's my advice, for what it's worth. If you totally hate it, please disregard it and move on to the next one. :)
Here are my thoughts...
If you already have the stuff, make the pumpkin breads. I know it sucks, but you might feel better making them than wasting the ingredients. You did commit to it by buying the ingredients and telling him you were going to do it...and he might have already told some clients they were coming. It won't be the end of the world if they don't get done, but it doesn't sound from your message like you're incapable (just don't want to.)
Then, next year, make it clear way ahead of time, like in September, what your contribution will be for the holidays. If you won't make breads, tell him straight out that you can't do it.
Offer to help in another way (writing /sending holiday cards? Buying pre-packaged baked goods & labeling them? Giving him a back rub?) but be very clear about what you can/can't or will/won't do for the business.
But as to the REAL problem -- the depression, your relationship with your husband, his understanding (or lack thereof) of your depression: it's much harder to offer advice! I think it' very imp. to have family & friends as support, especially if you're depressed. I think it's great that you have a support network & hope they can get you through the rough patches.
I'm sorry your hubby doesn't really get how depression can affect a person. I think people who don't get depressed don't really know what it feels like, even if they genuinely try.
Anyway, I hope you feel better soon. Take care!
JenStar
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