Posted by PhoenixGirl on August 26, 2004, at 23:06:27
I'm in an age-old predicament, but I don't know how to handle it. I'm in love with a man, but he doesn't know how he feels about me. Which is understandable, since we've known each other for only 1 month. We fool around and we can have intimate talks about emotion. But...he recently told me that he feels overwhelmed by our relationship and wants to back off. We had been planning to have sex, but not he says he is not ready to have sex with me.
I wanted the sex so much, for the feeling of being loved at least as much as for the physical gratification. He is sensitive, he is a good listener, he is an artist, he is affectionate. He's beautiful. But he's troubled, with a dark past. He said he feels like there's something wrong with his life right now, and needs his space. I am in love with him, and I want to spend lots of time with him. That presents a conflict. I want to explore our emotions, make love, and experience the joys of life together. I could kiss him and hold him forever. I feel that inexplicable "something" that I can only describe as love. It started from the first time we met.
I'm devastated, because he said he wants to slow down and cool off our relationship. The wise part of my mind says that this is a good idea....We should build more of a relationship before having sex.
He said he doesn't know how he feels about me....Which makes sense, because we've known each other for only about a month. But I've been bitten by the mysterious love bug. When he told me he wants us to spend less time together (but that he's not "going anywhere" and still wants to see me), my heart was crushed. I love the way he hold me, and how sensitive and artistic and unique he is. I want to kiss him and make love with him.
What should I do? I did suggest that we do some non-sexual things together, like going to the zoo or a park. I would really like to hear you guys' feedback. My experience with romantic relationships is very limited, and I'm still learning.Lovestruck,
Phoenixgirl
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