Posted by JenStar on July 31, 2004, at 15:06:27
In reply to How are you doing JenStar?, posted by Susan47 on July 31, 2004, at 10:54:40
thanks for asking! :) She actually just got fired from a job (eeek) and is needing help and support (emotional, not financial.) I'm feeling the struggle anew: do I be there for her, because she needs someone, even though I find it hard to bond with her?
I'm trying to take some of the advice I received: to set limits on the friendship, like telling her I can have coffee/lunch once in a while but it's hard for me to do dinner/etc.
I want her to have friends and have support, but I just don't feel that I'm the right one.
We'll see you it goes! I know it's not like I'm the greatest, most wonderful friend in the universe. She can get along without me. Still, I feel 'mean' for abandoning her. Maybe I feel special that she WANTS me as a friend, and it strokes my ego, and that's why it's hard for me to break off the friendship. (Why are we so complex? Why are things so difficult???)
anyway, thanks for taking time to ask!
Hope you and your friendship are cool. :)JenStar
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