Posted by TexasChic on July 30, 2004, at 7:37:03
In reply to Night out- dinner with relatives; ativan or xanax?, posted by daemon on July 30, 2004, at 7:19:56
I feel for you, relatives can be worse than strangers sometimes! They think they have the right to pry, but they don't. I think taking an anti-anxiety would be good if your doctor agrees. I couldn't tell you which one to use though. I use Xanax myself. It works well but can make you sleepy. And if you drink it can really mess you up (increases effects of alcohol). Plus both those meds have a potential for abuse, but it sounds like you are aware of that.
I recently have been distangling myself from my nosy mom. If she starts a conversation I don't want to discuss, I just say, "I'm not going to discuss that with you" and then I don't. It makes her pretty mad, but it has stopped the intrusiveness to a certain degree. You could also rehearse some planned responses so that you won't be hanging there trying to figure out how to get out of answering an uncomfortable question. You could come up with something that doesn't really answer, but veers them away from the subject. Like if they ask you when you're getting married you could say, "You know, I'm really enjoying the freedom of being single. I just started this art class and (blah, blah, blah chatter about the class)".
Anyway, these are just some suggestions. I hope it goes well!
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