Posted by AuntieMel on June 22, 2004, at 10:29:48
In reply to HELP! HE makes me feel crazy! » tampagirl70, posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 8:17:03
You are indeed in a tough spot.
You are in a very low spot. He is only 6 months sober (a baby in sober terms.) He wants to "fix" you. You would rather be left alone.
He is at a stage where he is supposed to be taking care of himself and his sobriety, and yet feels the need to take care of you. He seems to me to have very good intentions, but might be lacking in finesse.
In the family therapy group that I go to (for recovering drunks and druggies) we are told not to make any major changes in our lives (marriage, divorce, itc) until at least the first year goes by. For the longest time the family member doesn't talk to the person, but talks to the bottle. The person gradually comes out.
Do you really have a therapist saying "this is her she is not goint to change?" That seems to be a bit odd. Isn't change the whole point of therapy? I would really have a problem with a therapist that has that outlook, much preferring one that says "she can change, but it will take time."
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