Posted by Angel Girl on June 16, 2004, at 18:33:54
In reply to expectations » Angel Girl, posted by octopusprime on June 16, 2004, at 11:09:13
> hi ag:
>
> your follow-up post to mine made sense. but i didn't see anything about accountability in there, but i saw a lot of things about expectations.
>
> to answer your implied questions in no particular order:
>
> is it fair to expect somebody who is depressed to behave as if he or she is not depressed? NO
>
> do people do it anyway? YES
>
> is it super-annoying? YES
>
> does it do long term damage to relationships? YES
>
> is it all the depressed person's fault? NO
>
> this is one of those "life's not fair" issues. in an ideal world, a partner or friend would accomodate your illness after a serious discussion. you would take responsibility for following a treatment plan and avoiding triggering situations. that's a fair and accountable way to manage depression. but that's not how it works in the real world.
>YOU'RE RIGHT AND THE REAL WORLD SUCKS!!!! THERE'S VERY LITTLE IF ANY COMPASSION FOR THOSE SUFFERING FROM ANY FORM OF MENTAL ILLNESS. MY *FRIENDS* EXPECT ME TO BE JUST LIKE THEM AND I CAN'T, AT LEAST NOT UNTIL I'VE GONE THROUGH THERAPY AND LEARNED HOW TO REACT IN A MORE *NORMAL* MANNER. I'M SOOOOO SICK OF ALL THIS $HIT AND EVERYTHING THAT GOES ALONG WITH IT.
Sorry, I'm just not in a good place right now, nothing personal against you, I'm going through withdrawal and I can't stand this anymore. <cries>
I think I'll get off the computer now before I alienate everbody here because I'm not feeling good.
I REALLY meant nothing against you. It's just me and these dang drugs.
AG
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