Posted by fallsfall on May 3, 2004, at 15:14:50
I don't have a life.
My life is therapy. This *does* work, in a way, but at some point it might be nice for me to actually get a life.
But I find that there are "life" things that I have forgotten, so maybe you Babblers can help me out.
I find that most of my relationships (both IRL and online) kind of slide into pseudo-therapy kinds of relationships. Where all we do together is talk about "issues" and offer "support". Actually, I like this fine - I like offering support, and I like getting it. I find other people's issues interesting and I learn a lot about myself through understanding other people. But I think that this way of relating to people helps me stay "stuck" in my depression (since depression is so much fun, why should I get better?). It is truly scary for me, though to think about getting better because I no longer remember how people are *supposed* to interact with other people.
So, what *do* friends talk about? How much *do* they do for each other? What *are* reasonable boundaries?
P.S. To those who I "talk" to frequently, I am trying to figure out how to ask this question (and I really do need an answer) without making you unhappy. I value so much the friendships I have, and they have been so important to me - and they will continue to be important to me. I'm just hoping to find a little more balance - and replace some of the time that I've been staring at the walls with more productive and satisfying activities.
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