Posted by sfmom on April 30, 2004, at 23:32:34
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on April 27, 2004, at 19:09:30
Hi Geri,
Wow. That's a difficult situation to be in--for both of you. I don't know the details, but it seems like, as much as you may disagree and fight, that you care about each other. It's the people we care about who really have the power to hurt us, intentionally or not. By no means is it okay that he put you down and called you names and I hope that you are comfortable enough to tell him that if he wants to be a part of your life he's going to have to find a better way to communicate. But it may be that he's saying all of these things out of desperation and love for you and just doesn't know how to express himself in a constructive way. If so, it's a pretty typical male attribute!
What you have to decide is if it's worth your effort and energy to help him to understand what you are going through, or if you just don't have that kind of energy to spare right now and and need to come back and deal with this relationship when you have more perspective. I don't have all of the information and I'm not advacating one way or the other, that's for you to decide. But we'll be here to help and offer support and advice whenever you need us. Good luck and please keep us posted.
By the way, how are things going with your mom???
Love, lyssa
Do you want to go more in detail with us about your relationship and/or
> A ex friend of mine called and we sat on the phone for more then an hour agruing. He said i need to change my image. that i don't have my priorities straight, he pretty much put me down. He was my brother and he really hurt me.. I hate him, he thinks that he understands, but he has no clue. He call me every name in the book and told me i will be nothing. I know that its not true, but i want to know how i should react on this. Try to explain or let it be?
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