Posted by bookgurl99 on March 26, 2004, at 8:45:49
I've been realizing lately that I really need to meet more healthy,'together' people. My girlfriend and I are among those people that our friends turn to to help them, but not many of them help us.
This is in part because we have attracted a lot of people who need help. For example, someone might seem cool and nice when they're a bipolar person who's taking their meds. And that's when we meet them. But then they stop taking their meds and expect us to approve of their nutty behavior.
So -- at the suggestion of a therapist, I've decided to limit the number of friends that can be a 'case.' I've picked out one friend who can be, and the rest will just not be called back.
I feel terrible about doing this, because some people did this to me when they thought I was becoming a hypochondriac. (I wasn't; I had a medical problem that was undiagnosed -- but I don't want to befriend those people now.)
Yet, I feel this is necessary because I can't spend my energy taking care of people who won't take care of themselves. Plus, these are often people who call only when they need help.
So how do you guys find other people who are taking care of themselves? How do you meet people that have it together?
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