Posted by fallsfall on March 12, 2004, at 8:30:36
In reply to When you have changed yourself so much...., posted by syringachalet on March 10, 2004, at 13:20:44
I'm sorry that you don't have the strength to advocate for yourself in the way that you were clearly successful in advocating for others. I know that that kind of strength is not always available to me in times of illness or stress. It is additionally frustrating to *know* so clearly what should be done - but to be unable to do it for yourself.
Sometimes it is necessary to be one step removed from the situation to be able to successfully advocate. Do you have a support person in your life who can fill the role that you have done in the past for others? Can you find such a support person? That might be easier than fighting each of the battles by yourself.
It is sad when a caregiver's positive qualities have to start with "this one shows up". It is clear to me that you shouldn't be "blamed" for your current problem - unless you *resisted* the prescribed treatment. And it doesn't sound like you *resisted* at all. Are your needs well known and clearly written out (by your doctor?). I'm a big believer in getting things in writing as it is harder for people to "not know" if it is in black and white.
I wish you the best in recovering from your current skin condition and in finding a person who can effectively support you when you don't have the strength to support yourself.
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