Posted by Dr. Bob on February 25, 2004, at 22:54:27
In reply to Re: Fluoxetine and Alcohol--please help, posted by inthegloaming on February 25, 2004, at 2:43:14
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> > Sounds like you tried your best to voice your displeasure about it despite your dazed state. AND since the friend knew your stance on sexual stuff before that point, that makes it even worse. What they did to you was definitely wrong anyway, and even more so after what you just clarified, and at the very least you should not call them your "friend" anymore. Someone who does that once (and knew you were against it like they did) will probably try it again if they think they can get away with it in the future.
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> dammit, it's so hard! my best friend says that nobody's at fault, as we were both drunk/out of it and i didn't say 'no.' but i feel like... i feel like if she knew what the deal was going into it... oh god, i don't know. it's so hard.
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> > In the meantime, you might try getting some counseling/therapy
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> i actually have a therapist. we do phone sessions, as i'm at school now. she's great, she really is. i'm going to talk to her about this.
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> <I was raped in high school and I didnt get help until a few years after the fact. My experience should have warranted me pressing criminal charges, but i was too overwhelmed by it all to do anything at the time.
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> this wasn't rape; it didn't get that far, thank god. i keep wanting to excuse her, cos she didn't mean it to be malicious or anything, but... i mean, SHOULD i just drop it?! i can't seem to make a descision either way.
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> >Talk it out with people and if it will make you feel better to take some sort of action, go for it. It's good to see that you are dealing with it now, instead of just keeping it bottled up and suffering.
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> talking has just made me confused. so many people say so many different things and then i doubt my stance and blah blah blah... man. i don't know. i keep saying that. dammit. it's late. i'm frustrated. with her, with myself, with my friends...
> siiigh.
> thanks for your help, though! your words mean a lot.
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