Posted by madwand on December 15, 2003, at 16:22:45
In reply to Re: Tabitha is too kind » madwand, posted by tabitha on December 15, 2003, at 15:58:19
> excellent way to perceive it. But I did let many of the criticisms in. Faulty boundaries. I'm more likely to reject compliments and accept criticism. Several of his criticisms uncannily echoed my own self-doubts, so some of them were already mine to begin with.
I hear you! 'Signficant others' sure know how to find those (or quickly figure it out :)). One of my biggest challenges in my 12-Step inventory was to identify the ones that had some validity to them and separate out the "charge" my ex imbued them with (I found I couldn't face/accept a genuine fault and deal with it when I was too busy "defending" against my ex).
Good luck with whatever you decide works the best for you!Michael
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