Posted by Larry Hoover on December 11, 2003, at 13:11:35
In reply to Re: anger redux - the toolkit!/ lar, posted by kara lynne on December 11, 2003, at 12:48:55
> Everything you say is true about my mother. It's just so hard to feel sorry for someone while they're insulting you and attacking by subterfuge, which seem the most evil of all in my family.
Make rules about it, is all I can suggest. "When you talk to me like that, I will hang up." And do it. That sort of stuff. Detachment is also a function of distance. If it's in person, walk away. You know? Change the subject. Over and over again, "So, what about those Kings?"
> Did you ever read any Alice Miller?
Dance of Anger, et al? Too many years ago to remember explicitly, but yes.
Lar
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