Posted by Festus on November 16, 2003, at 21:46:45
I hope I,m on the right board,I need some advice on a family situation from guys that know what it,s like to be on meds for ADD,Depression,and Chronic Pain.My wife of 15 yrs.and I have had our share of problems,I feel a lot of them were from her trying to live with a un-medicated,mis-diagnosed husband.Anyway,as usually is the case during separations,families tend to side with blood and mine pretty much did with me while we had been apart(3-4 times),even though we all tried to be adult about stuff(we have 2 girls,13 and 8)as much as possible.It turns out we both had mental issues that needed professional help and when we both got properly medicated,counseled,etc.,we reconciled over a year ago and have had very little fussing.We never hit or kicked each other,no adultery,just not able to "get along"till we got helped.The trouble is,my wife will not attend any of my family outings cause of hard feelings she has with my Mom and Sis,and it causes a strain on things,like when one of the girls has a birthday,I take them over to my families outings alone and the girls don,t quite understand this and I try and be the mediator and my mom or sis don,t think they did any wrong and my wife thinks I,m "siding" with them,and we get into arguements and today I ended up going to an outing alone,the girls chose to stay home with mom,and when I got there,they were all askin me "Where,s the girls,why won,t they come over?"and I go home and try to talk to the wife,and she,s goin"I knew you,d go over there and get on their side,you won,t cut Mommies apron strings!",and we got into a terrible arguement and the girls were scared and the holidays are comin,and,MAN,I,m tryin to keep straight on all this but I don,t know what,s right!I,ll Sure Welcome some comments!Festus
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