Posted by kara lynne on November 7, 2003, at 22:37:07
In reply to Re: Sienna » kara lynne, posted by sienna on November 7, 2003, at 18:54:56
-I need to see an actual behaviour change or Im done-
That's the smartest move you could make. Take it from someone who stuck around waiting for someone to change, listening to meaningless words--for years. And I have nothing to show for it except a further delay in finding something better for me.
I'm not saying he won't change--anything is possible. That is, if it's something he wants for himself. If he does then great-- you guys can take another shot at working it out. But in the meantime you haven't given yourself up for something that or may not happen. He will ultimately respect you a lot more for that.
I know it's heartbreaking, especially when he's acting so different than usual. Do you have any idea what happened--could he be using drugs or something? Not that it makes any difference; the end result is still that you have to take care of yourself in the situation.
Try to take it a day at a time. For me, to consider never talking to my ex again was too painful. Take the first step and spend some time by yourself to start building the muscle again. Anyway, snappy and mean is not fun to be around, and more painful in the end than breaking up. It's just that you have to feel worse before you feel better, but you will feel better. If you stay with a man who is mean to you, you will never feel better.
Please let me know how you're doing, when you feel like it.
I'm thinking of you,
Kara
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