Posted by kara lynne on October 26, 2003, at 13:53:19
In reply to Re: Why is simple functioning so hard? » kara lynne, posted by NikkiT2 on October 26, 2003, at 3:57:05
Thanks Nikki,
It's a touchy topic I know, but much easier to sympathize when you say it like you did in this post. It took me so long to say anything to them because I felt so awkward doing it in the first place; challenging people's comfort to smoke where they live. On the other hand they are controlling my comfort level, and I am having to endure a good amount of second hand smoke every day. Not to mention (as I already did) I can't use one room entirely because the walls and everything in it stink permanently of stale smoke.It is not entirely avoidable; smoke travels, and there are I think 3 smokers that live directly next door to me. But the teenage guy was sitting very close to my window (outside of his apt.) knowing full well what he was doing. He is full of punk bravado and asserting his right to...assert. I had had to talk to the landlord about them making noise at 3am and he didn't care for that, so he was trying to make a point. When I finally got the nerve up to talk to him he began to be reasonable, but his girlfriend was tugging on his arm and glaring at me like she was going to punch my lights out if I said one more word to them. I was really going to try to work it out with him, offer to buy his cigarrettes, or a couch for him to move further away from my window outside where he sits. He is technically outside of his own apt., but it's 3 feet away from mine. And there is only one tiny window in the room here where I sit at the computer, and the weather has been abomidably hot.
I'm feeling pretty defeated about it today. I think he may be trying, but my apt. still smells like smoke and I am terribly allergic to it, so I feel low grade sick all the time I'm here. I think they're going to end up 'winning'. I also feel outnumbered, and like the other tenants have formed an alliance by having lived here longer. I can feel the hate, if you know what I mean...and I hate it.
So that was a long winded way of trying to give you more information. I don't know what your landlord's intention is or why he's trying to make it a non smoking building, unless there are other people around who might be affected by it. That's a tough situation.
My objection is a purely physical, not moral one.
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