Posted by femlite on October 5, 2003, at 9:52:23
In reply to Re: Please help me understand my husband » femlite, posted by jinglebts on October 5, 2003, at 3:20:10
lol (i guess i phrased that wrong) no,ive always been this way. I just didnt have to be responsible to anyone else about it before I married.
Thats not to say my erratic behavior hasnt landed me in one hot pot or another most my life.
But being married and depressed is more of a pressure cooker sometimes.
I wouldnt trade him for the world. After 15 years of a roller coaster with me, hes still here and he still loves me. I am blessed. Its been hell at times, ive wanted to shoot him, leave him, strangle him, and he me, but we are commited. (or should be ;>)
Ive finally figured out what to say and he finally understands, "I need some space" is our code phrase. He knows what that means now. Its not you, Im just feeling hateful, anxious, depressed, angry, apathetic, fill in the blank. I go find him when its over. I use to get upset that he couldnt help me through it. He listens but he jsut doesnt relate. But you know what? HE LISTENS.
sometimes thats enough. When its not i jsut do my usual dysfuntional things, scream, shop, veg,eat, he knows thats just my way of coping and hes in it with me for the long haul.
If you have a stable partner, hang onto him or her. Like Dr. Phil says, its a myth we both have to be sane for it to work. Ones always more balanced than the other.
best regards
poster:femlite
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