Posted by Susan J on September 15, 2003, at 7:51:13
In reply to 2:45 am, wanting to call him., posted by kara lynne on September 15, 2003, at 4:49:49
Hey, you. :-) I posted this on the *grief* board, too, but adding it here so you see it.
Don't call. :-) Perhaps his therapist is telling him it's *highly unrealistic* for the two of you to get back together because the therapist *knows* your ex isn't ready to be in *any* type of healthy relationship.....
And, I know this sounds goofy, but I swear it works for me. Keep repeating to yourself, you don't need him, you are wonderful without him, life will be wonderful without him, you don't need him, life is good, you don't need him.
I promise you, if you make this part of your *life tape* it will come true. Right now, you are dwelling on how much it hurts to not be with him, and the repetition of those thoughts, coupled with the painful emotions, just reinforces the bad feelings. Repeating to yourself that life will be good, that you are strong without him, that you don't need him, will replace the negative thoughts and start helping you feel better.
Hang in there. You are much stronger than you think...... :-)
Susan
poster:Susan J
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