Re: I'm Crazy, Aren't I? » Susan J

Posted by Ted on September 9, 2003, at 15:11:44

In reply to I'm Crazy, Aren't I? , posted by Susan J on September 9, 2003, at 14:05:38

> Boy does something *horrible* to betray their friendship because he is weak and emotionally unhealthy.
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> Boy comes back and apologizes sincerely, wants to try to fix what's he's broken.
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> Girl doesn't know what to do. Keep ignoring boy and stay safe? Forgive boy and let him do all the work?

This is the classic scenario of an abuser (either physical or emotional). I am in favor of second chances, but only you can decide how *horrible* he was. I am not in favor of third (or fourth or ...) chances.
Only an objective talk with a neutral friend can help if you are unsure. I would probably err on the safe side and tell him to take a hike. After all, he is the one who is so emotionally unhealthy, and you won't be able to change that without *lots* of patient effort.
>Why does girl still care about boy?
Because she is lonely and the familiar is "safe". This is an occasion where you must avoid what feels "safe" and venture out of her cocoon.
Ted

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I'm Crazy, Aren't I? Susan J 9/9/03
Not at all. kara lynne 9/9/03
Re: I'm Crazy, Aren't I? » Susan J Ted 9/9/03
Re: I'm Crazy, Aren't I? Susan J 9/9/03
Re: Not at all. » kara lynne Susan J 9/9/03
My other response was for Ted, too, Sorry (nm) » Susan J Susan J 9/9/03

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