Posted by Chicklet on September 5, 2003, at 12:08:25
In reply to Re: just spouting off again... » Penny, posted by fallsfall on September 5, 2003, at 11:43:44
Penny- Fallsfall is right on.
I don't know if you remember but I told you about a friend of mine that was so much like your roomie that i'm starting to wonder if they're related. We didn't live together tho.
I finally got so mad at her passive-agression adn "woe-is-me-that-the-world-treats-me-so-unfairly-when-i-treat-everyone-so thoughtfully" attitude that I just blew up. We had a misunderstanding and she clammed up and cried and blamed me for all of my terrible character flaws and callousness. After attempting to reason with her- and even trying to hug her to say that it was a misunderstanding (not an apology though, because it wasn't my fault) she just stared straight ahead and wept. "This is why I don't share my feelings with anyone, because they always yell at me..."...then she compared me to some "people in her past" that have made her feel bad. That was absolutely it. i'm a good person and a good friend and this was just bullshit. I ended up saying ___ off and that was it. I've tried for years to cater to her little insecurities (and you know that's what it comes down to- it's just manifesting itself in a particularly ugly way)...now we dont talk or write or anything. and while I still miss her company a bit, i don't miss the energy sap and the high maintenance and the listening to her tell me how 'everyone else' si so mean to her. Espevially when she "tried so hard to be nice and generous to them"...!!!She'll be out soon. My advice is to put on your imaginary suit of armor. Answer her respectfully but indifferently and don't let yourself be sucked in by her manipulative behavior. This is IT. it's adding stress to your life that you just don't need. Especially from a 'friend'. it'll be fine. just take a deep breath and ride it out.
K
poster:Chicklet
thread:257269
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20030829/msgs/257285.html