Posted by fallsfall on August 30, 2003, at 22:06:52
In reply to I am Feeling Creepy Tonight, posted by Temmie on August 30, 2003, at 20:54:22
Temmie,
I hear you. I think that when I was a child someone told me that I would finish high school, go to college, start a career, get married, buy a house, have kids, raise kids, welcome grandchildren, get old, and die. It was so simple. You just go from one step to the next. I started my life like I was supposed to. But sometime in the middle of "raise kids" I left my husband and crashed with depression. Now that things are different, I'm not quite sure how to change the list.
What happened with Paul's first trial? I'm sorry if you posted and I missed it. Why do you think the second will go badly?
When was the last time that Paul was self-sufficient? Or at least pulling his own weight? Are you willing to take the chance that you will have to support him? Are you willing to live with him the way that he is willing to live?
Where do we go for help when the therapists are gone? Well, if things get bad enough, you should be able to call your therapist before your next appointment. Before things get that bad you go to friends and family and us. We're here for you.
It sounds to me like you are thinking about the right things. You are going in the right direction. I think that when your child leaves the house that every parent goes through a certain amount of "well, I used to be a parent, so what am I supposed to be doing with myself now?". And it is important for us to come up with good answers - we have many important years left.
(((((Temmie)))))
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