Posted by fallsfall on August 28, 2003, at 14:29:57
In reply to Editorial comments just fine! » fallsfall, posted by Temmie on August 28, 2003, at 13:06:41
Temmie,
You are such a sweet person, and J is lucky to have you for his mother.
The letter will be fine. It says a little more than I might say, but it is written from your heart and it is all true (except about you being a lousy mother...). J will know that you love him and that you have done your best. I think that those are the important parts.
I have done a bit of editing for work (Software Engineering). My first boss after college taught me to write and edit - incredibly valuable! I would be happy to review stuff for you - but I am brutal.
Can I ask if J has actually told you that he is unhappy with you? Keep in mind that most teenagers have a certain amount of rebellion, and sometimes that is necessary for them to separate from the parents they love. I guess I'm not clear if he really hates you, or if he's being a teenager, or if you are assuming that he hates you (because you aren't so pleased with yourself so why should he be)?
The only thing I would think you might want to send as a follow up is an email that VERY briefly summarizes the important points:
1. You think he is capable of making good decisions
2. Dad was upset about the vodka
3. If he feels depressed he should seek help
4. You love him and have always done the best you could for himMaybe not in that order? 9 sentances max (including one that says that this email states the most important points from the long email).
Reasons to do that: If he didn't read the first, maybe he'll read this one. You get a chance to emphasize what you want to (which ends up deemphasizing the rest).
Or just let it go.
So, how is J doing? Does he like his roommate? Does he like his classes? Has he joined any clubs or teams? How is the food?
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