Posted by whiterabbit on July 11, 2003, at 18:51:01
In reply to Re: I'm sorry » Racer, posted by zenhussy on July 11, 2003, at 14:45:35
Racer-
Anger is part of grieving over a death...you're hurting, you're angry, you want to punish someone
because it hurts so badly and it's so unfair....
you have to punish SOMEONE! You have to focus all that anger at SOMEONE! You have to get rid of it
SOMEHOW! And you can't be mad at the person who is dead so you look around...Racer these people are using you for a target. Of course you know that you had nothing to do with this man's death, but his wife and friends are directing so much pain and rage at you that subconciously you DO feel guilty for his death.
It's not your fault, Racer. That man would be dead whether you knew him or not, that man would still be dead even if you had never laid eyes on him. You ARE NOT responsible for his death, don't let those people do this to you.
Please Racer, consider the offer from Zen or Greg or both, please. What have you got to lose.
-Gracie
poster:whiterabbit
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