Posted by yesac on July 10, 2003, at 16:23:04
In reply to Re: going home and I don't want to » yesac, posted by janejj on July 8, 2003, at 16:29:57
I just wanted to respond to some of your questions and comments about me moving...
Well, the key reason that I moved was because I wanted to establish residency to go to grad school here. I did give it a lot of thought before moving here, and decided that I really just needed to take the plunge. It would have been safer and "secure" to just stay in NH, and I suppose I could have found a job there. But even though it feels more like home there, there were problems too. I didn't really have any friends there - lost touch with friends from high school. Plus, I don't feel like there are as good of job opportunities, and no grad school that I would want to go to. I would have felt like I was just taking the easy route by staying there, and always would have wondered. Not that I couldn't have moved later, but it was a good time, and it probably would have been harder if I waited because I would be more settled there (I was back and forth for 5 years during college and my ensuing stint in AmeriCorps).
I have tried to get involved here. I do some volunteering and I joined a church, which is rather shocking as I am not religious in the typical sense and haven't gone to any church in years. But I guess I just need to do more because I still feel like I have way too much spare time on my hands, and haven't exactly made any friends.
It's just hard. I don't regret my decision, and in some ways it's really nice because I truly feel independent and like a "real adult" and brave for stepping out on my own like this. But all of those things don't make the day-to-day realities and struggles any easier! That's for sure...
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