Posted by noa on June 30, 2003, at 19:43:37
In reply to Re: That's the spirit » whiterabbit, posted by kalyb on June 30, 2003, at 15:36:46
This discussion of bullies rings true for me, too, as I am dealing with a bully at work.
The only thing I would say is that there are different ways of walking away.
Whatever way we deal with the bullies, it is important to try to hold on to our power. That is very hard, as bullies are good at engaging us in power struggles on their terms.
In my bully situation, it is clear to me that the amygdala kicks in big time. It is "fight or flight" and in our situation, she fights, or shall I say, attacks, and I flee. Sometimes fleeing is the best option I have available to me. Not my ideal but the best for the moment.
But I am learning how to protect my boundaries better. That is key.
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