Posted by Dinah on June 26, 2003, at 17:07:18
In reply to Therapists - Past and Future, posted by fallsfall on June 26, 2003, at 16:32:42
That reminds me of the Chinese proverb that there are two marriages in every marriage bed, or something like that. That each person has a completely different idea of what is going on in a relationship.
Irvin Yalom's whole book "Every Day Gets a Little Closer: A Twice-Told Therapy" is based on that idea.
I've had those moments with my therapist. Where he says something that makes me realize he's been in a completely different relationship than I have. And whenever it happens, we sit down and hash it out until we're quite clear we're on the same page.
But I don't think I'd bother going to that much trouble with a therapist who is so rigid. If I sometimes suspect that my therapist doesn't mind extra sessions because he likes the extra income, I still appreciate that he's willing to do it. And that he's able to tolerate my dependency and not allow his own feelings about it affect our therapeutic relationship.
I think you've made the right decision. And if you ever want to go back and clear up a few things, there's no reason to do it right away is there?
Congratulations on a successful end to your careful search. Or is that Congratulations on your new beginning. :)
Good luck, Fallsfall.
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