Posted by zenhussy on June 22, 2003, at 23:18:39
In reply to Re: Wendy » wendy b., posted by Dinah on June 22, 2003, at 22:01:00
>> As to the rest of your post, as I said, I didn't read it closely because I have no intention of upsetting myself.
I'm glad you are taking protective measures to insure your safety by not reading the entire post that someone posts to you.
However, would you please explain how it is that you are able to moderate this board when you don't even read entire posts?
I am very sincere in this question Dinah as the contridictions in your posts and statements are beginning to make me wonder how it is that you can moderate this board AND keep yourself safe.
Your safety, and the safety of all posters, is what needs to come first for everyone. Each individual is responsible for their own actions and words. As people with mental illnesses we must take responsibility for what we post here. We must also take responsibility for our own safety. Dr. Bob is not a father figure to come rescue posters when they are having trouble with disengaging from reading threads or posts or posters that they find upsetting.
Over the years many have shown varying degrees of difficulty in staying away from posts that are triggering, harmful, or damaging to them in some way, shape or form. I admire those that have shown the ability to protect themselves by disengaging when things on this board become too much for them to handle. I feel great sympathy for those than are not able to disengage since reading their pained posts about not being able to stop (almost like an addiction perhaps?--this is the opinion of zenhussy and zenhussy alone) makes me sad. But just because I am saddened by reading posts by someone who is unable to remove themselves from this board when necessary for their health and safety does not mean that I'm upset about reading their posts.
This board does not force anyone to read any posts. If posts are too troubling then people need to either use the anti-addiction limit function at the top of the page that Dr. Bob has provided or ask other posters for help in how to stop being so involved in posts that are 'harming' them.
So, again, I truly wonder how it is that you can effectively moderate if you aren't even reading entire posts.
I am upset by the very fact that wendy b. wrote out a though provoking post to you about what has been occurring on this board lately and you, for your own safety which is understandable yet as a moderator quite confusing, don't even have the respect to read her post and answer her.
This board continues to get stranger and stranger. I will take up my questions about the efficacy of moderators over on admin with Dr. Bob as I see this as being a large problem with posters moderating---especially posters who don't even read the entire posts. It just doesn't add up.
I am trying to understand here but grow more confused with each post and flip flop of thoughts and feelings regarding posters changing names, 'coded messages', outsiders, insiders, ASH, et al.
Now it is I who is the lost confused one.
extremely disappointed in the tone and administration going on on PSB,
zh
>>You need not read anything else into it. But feel free to if you must.
Oh this is the kicker here Dinah Marie. You need not?! Everyone reads into posts what they will but to tell another that she needn't read more into a post? And then to say feel free if you must? tsk tsk tsk Again I expect more from someone with the responsibilities and duties of a moderator of this board. But as I said above I will take that issue up on the admin board as that is where that part of this conversation belongs.
> Wendy, I read just enough of your post to recognize that you are reading your own meaning into what I said. I wasn't referring to ASH. I don't even know what ASH is. I was saying that I enjoyed Babble precisely because of the new posters. And that if I didn't enjoy meeting new posters I would arrange it so that I didn't. I was referring to myself, not anyone else.
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> As to the rest of your post, as I said, I didn't read it closely because I have no intention of upsetting myself.
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> I wasn't unkind to A Little Sphinx. Why would I be? I have a great deal of sympathy for suicidal ideation. I didn't respond because I didn't know how to respond. And had no idea how to best be helpful.
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> You may feel as you wish about me Wendy. What you feel is what you feel. How you express it is how you express it. How I respond is up to me. And I choose to believe that you again misunderstood me.
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> I'm not going to fight with you. I'm not going to defend myself further. You may post whatever you wish. I know the truth about myself better than you do.
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> I have been open about every single thought that occurred to me about this event. You need not read anything else into it. But feel free to if you must.
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