Posted by whiterabbit on June 17, 2003, at 22:45:08
In reply to escaping my life, posted by mmcasey on June 16, 2003, at 14:06:33
Young one, you are doing what you're supposed to be doing and feeling how you're supposed to feel;
all of those thoughts are totally appropriate and
you're doing fine, better than you think. I guess there are people in the world who know exactly what they want to do and set a course for it with burning ambition, and they love that job for the rest of their lives. But that's relatively unusual
and the rest of us have to work it out through life experience before we settle on a direction that we want to follow. We do that by asking ourselves the questions that you're asking. As long as you continue what you're doing - paying attention to how you really feel about a situation
and trying to figure out what's making you uncomfortable about it - you'll be able to make adjustments in your lifestyle, usually small changes that don't seem incredibly important but will alter your course over time.The people that don't question enough and put their faith in "everything will work out" ...usually end up in jobs they hate, bad marriages and situations that are hard to get out of. So keep asking yourself - do I like this? What don't I like about it? Can I do something to make it better? What do I feel like I'm missing?
Now I have to do what I always do and recommend a great book. It's a timeless classic: "How To Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie.
I first read this book in my early 20s and it helped me so much that I've toted the same ragged copy around for 20 years and I read it again when my perspective needs changing.Best wishes-
Gracie
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