Posted by shar on June 13, 2003, at 22:18:54
In reply to Re: Slipping and sliding, posted by Dinah on June 13, 2003, at 20:02:00
Dinah,
You are a slippery one. There is no 'one right way.' Maybe instead of saying, no I'm not ok, you could say, well, this has not been one of the greatest days of my life, or something else tailored to a truth he (your spouse) can understand. That is, letting him know you're not great, and you'll take a little sympathy and support if that's what he's offering.And, that's just an example. You know how to phrase something that means "yes, I could use a little tenderness" without freaking the person (spouse, relative, friend, or other non-professional) out. And, I'm saying that's what many of us need to be doing (sharing) instead of isolating--this last bit not meant only for you, Dinah, but for me, and many others here.
Shar
> My husband is a wonderful man. But boy, can he overreact. If I told him half of the truth, he'd be afraid to leave me alone, or with my son. He doesn't get the difference between ideation and intent.
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> Talking to my therapist helped though. He didn't overreact. Just asked me to get the razor blades out of the house, which seems reasonable to me, even if I do have no intention of using them.
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