Posted by noa on June 10, 2003, at 23:44:50
In reply to Re: Just tired of it (work stuff) » noa, posted by fallsfall on June 10, 2003, at 22:27:05
Thanks, you guys.
After talking at length with a friend of mine, I am calmer. I think each new day I see more and more clearly what I am dealing with. My friend told me that she thinks they are just not going to ever get it and I should disengage. I It is hard for me to totally disengage because the boundary violtion feels so offensive to me. I can and have tried to not engage in some of it but I was holding on to this idea of being able to get them to be more reasonable and defending this boundary. But now I know that I really am ready to pack it up and leave sometime soon, so it becomes easier to totally just disengage, especially since this lates email from the boss. Ironically, this annoying ante-upping email actually gives me a way to disengage now that I have decided it is a losing battle and I need to prepare to leave.
I'll explain. Now that the issue is no longer about presenting me with a plan and getting me to agree to the plan, but has "morphed" into simply conveying a so-called "company policy", I am just going to basically acknowledge receipt--ok, they've conveyed it to me. And I will call off the meeting because really there is nothing to meet about at this point.
When we ended the other meeting, I had said that I needed to think about how to respond and wanted to work out a way to resolve it, and the boss had replied that she did feel confident that it could be resolved. Which of course, is way different than what she is now saying, which is just that this is a non-negotiable company policy. I might say something about that--just a comment about the change from getting my agreement to a "Plan" vs. communicating a "policy" to me. I don't know, I'll play it by ear.
My only questin at that point, then will be about the memo-if it is somethig going in my file, I will want to write a response to it because it reads like a list of accusations, and also has innacuracies and distortions that I must officialy dispute because they imply I did something wrong when I did not.
I'll keep you posted.
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