Posted by zenhussy on June 3, 2003, at 0:50:15
In reply to Re: Alii, posted by paxvox on June 2, 2003, at 18:56:41
> Thanks, Greg, that was very a heart-felt expression. Yes, my daughter will never have to question did her daddy love her. I hope she doesn't have to ask "did my mommy, who left me"?
> From marriage counseling session today, I am begining to wonder if a resolution will ever come. Even though the counselor pointed out (as she has the past 3 weeks) that my wife should contact her Pdoc, as her depression seemed to be very deep, she is waiting until her scheduled Friday appointment with him. This makes me ask my "time old" question: does she WANT to be well?
> She said today that she didn't feel at all close to me; what does that mean? Of course, the counselor told me not to "take it personally", that it was the depression talking. Well shit, how else AM I to take it? Well, I guess we have the summer to see what develops, but with every passing day, I see her not only pulling away from ME but from life in general. How much more can I absorb before I become toxic?
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> PAX
Dear Pax,I read your post with such a heavy heart. I hope you don't feel you are becoming toxic with all that is going on. Your daughter will grow up knowing both her parents love her no matter what happens.
I have full faith that she will have that instilled by you even if her mother isn't capable of being as involved--at this time.
I'm willing to bet your wife does want to be better but remembering where I was when depression first descended upon me (and also when the memories of trauma first surfaced) I was completely unable to formulate a treatment plan. I was too damn depressed to deal. My psychiatric treatment for the first couple of years was some hit and miss stuff until I became active in my own treatment.
This might take her some time. And I know by now you're sick of hearing about time healing things. I wish I had something of more substance to say here but I do not.
I wish I could help. I pray for your family and your strength.
You are all in my heart.
zenhussy
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