Posted by Dinah on May 20, 2003, at 0:37:09
In reply to Re: yelling » Dinah, posted by wendy b. on May 19, 2003, at 21:10:52
Well, I must confess that when he was a colicky baby, after a few nights of constant crying and very little sleep, I once yelled at him to shut up. And of course was instantly horrified. I'm not even really sure I yelled it. I know I at least said it. But I don't think he remembers that, and that was the last time I came close to yelling.
I hadn't thought of it in that way, though. My son does have problems with trying to be too good, and I hadn't thought about the fact that I might not be providing him with a good role model in that regard. I can't promise that I'll yell at him more often, but I will try to stop feeling guilty about it, and if it happens I'll try let him know that it's ok to occasionally lose your temper. And that someone can be angry but that it's not the end of the world, and he's still loved. After the initial shock wore off, he really took it better than I did. I am so determined to not be like my parents, that maybe I go too far in the other direction.
Mind you, I give him plenty of other examples of lack of perfection. :) Yelling just isn't usually one of them.
Thank you, Wendy, for the perspective.
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