Posted by leeran on May 4, 2003, at 12:21:17
In reply to Re: Being sucked into family drama again... » leeran, posted by Dinah on May 3, 2003, at 23:03:13
Dinah,
I'm so curious about this concept: interpersonal skills.
I tried to respond last night but my interpersonal skills in discussing interpersonal skills wore me out and I went to bed.
I know you are in the process of extricating yourself - but I'm so curious to hear how long it took you to get to that watershed moment of being able to SAY such a sentence to your parents (i.e. amount of time in therapy - not your total time in therapy, just what it took to get you there) and how you feel after saying that one simple sentence (i.e. the "morning after"), and if this is the first time you've said such a thing.
I'm reasonably sure that I could not say that sentence to either one of my parents (or both at the same time, although their proven agenda is speaking about the other to me "on the side"). Argghhhhh. If I did say it, the punishment would be at least six weeks of silence.
Dinah, I understand completely that "hashing this all out" diminishes the extrication (the transitive verb that's survived the dark of night) process, so please don't feel like you have to answer all my questions - or even one of them.
My primary reason for this post is to say that I'm a voyeuristic cheerleader shaking my pompons in your honor! The fact that you've taken those feelings from an attitude toward them to something you can verbalize with them is (IMO) profound!
Lee
P.S. I just realized, sitting here typing this, that I had a very symbolic dream that involved my mother. No wonder I'm so tired this morning!
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