Posted by ayuda on April 18, 2003, at 19:26:10
In reply to My 2 cents, posted by white rabbit on April 18, 2003, at 18:17:46
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> Husband walking out on me after 20 years...mid-life crisis, probably getting a little on the side, tired of my craziness. And apparently my love and devotion and cooking and my fabulous wit.
>
> Right now, the thought of dating again kind of makes me sick to my stomach. I'd rather be alone for awhile, proabably a LONG while, maybe forEVER.
> From where I'm standing, that doesn't look bad at
> all.
> -Gracie
I watched my mom go through that, too, though the cheating on my dad's part lasted the entire 18 years of the marriage, and then it lasted through 5 more years of sheer hell, with physical abuse and violent fights that involved the whole family, including us kids (who were young teens at the time). My mom ended up getting another man in her life early on during that time, but he eventually was even worse than my dad. She has dated on and off since all that (the initial break-up between them was in 1980), but she would never, ever get married again. And the funny thing is, neither would my dad, even though he has had long term relationships with other women since then, too.Which, then, to get back on Tony's subject, may also be why I never felt the need to get married nor do I get upset at not dating -- I had my "bad marriage" living through my parents'. Couple that with GAD that I've suffered from all my life, and it doesn't exactly spell domestic bliss.
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