Posted by WorryGirl on April 2, 2003, at 15:49:35
In reply to Re: sad truth is.., posted by kara lynne on April 2, 2003, at 13:16:22
> I once went on a date and the guy didn't offer to pay for my (one) mineral water at the end of the evening. I never went out with him again--it was just so weird to me--I would pay for my girlfriend's mineral water, you know? Even though first dates are awkward and no-one knows the rules, I still think it says something about someone's character if he picks up the tab for a mineral water. (I guess itdidn't help that he was boring and not very attractive either.) He kept trying to go out with me for months afterward, telling me what a brilliant and funny guy he was. Maybe I should have just told hime he might have had a chance if he'd have paid for the mineral water. Maybe that sounds petty, but I do think it says something about a person.
Couldn't help but add my 2 cents worth. Yes, I agree, it says a lot about a man's character if they can't even pick up a tab with a wine or two or glass of water on it!
Considering that he was boring and not very attractive he may have been insecure (even if he seemed full of himself) and actually hoping that if you offered to pick up your tab (or even his, too!), then you must really like him! In my opinion, even if you are into splitting checks and consider men paying for women's drinks/dinner, etc. a sexist practice (which does NOT describe me) I think it shows consideration for a man to treat the woman on their first date, especially if he asked her out.
Am I wrong in the assumption that whoever asks/invites usually pays?
Then, there are the cheapskate jerks, such as an old schoolmate of my husband's who takes pride in never paying for a drink and trying to get laid in the process, using his supposed wit, charm and good looks. Apparently he is good enough looking that it works occasionally. Or even sadder that there are women lonely enough to put up with it. Makes me fume :-S
And for some men to expect a kiss or another date after that....
Thank God for the good guys out there.
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