Posted by beardedlady on February 19, 2003, at 8:16:27
In reply to Things keep getting worserer and worserer..., posted by Dinah on February 17, 2003, at 22:14:32
I know this is a stupid thing to say, but I have to say it (you know, we moms say these stupid things once in awhile; it's our job).
Don't be so hard on yourself. Whine, bitch, complain. Don't take it! Fight back!
You probably can't do this out loud, can you? Well, when I want to have a good cry or scream and am feeling this on the inside, my whole body is like pudding. So I go in a room that's the furthest away in the house from anything, and I grab a pillow, and I scream into it. Scream, scream, scream. Sometimes just the release of the buildup of frustration feels so good. Other times, I'm the same as I was, but I've screamed.
I've also learned some good skills from my therapist about learning to accept the things you can't control by controlling other things. So you can't control the fact that you have to deal with all these things. But you can control some of your actions, so you concentrate on the ones that relieve the anxiety.
It's more complex than that, but I have to read the instructions on the shrinky dink maker right now!
I hope you feel better, Dinah.
beardy : )>
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