Posted by shar on January 4, 2003, at 23:53:10
In reply to Kam.....men get battered too, posted by Alii on January 4, 2003, at 13:17:44
I have a terrible time agreeing with the idea that ..."there are men who suffer just as much *if not more than* some women do" (emphasis mine).
I think I've probably stepped into threads dozens of times by now, with my opinion (my opinion) (that is, my opinion) that no good comes from comparisons of pain levels or suffering levels, and it might even end up causing friction when it occurs.
While I would love to be more flowery and poetic about my opinion, I am a rather down-to-earth person who just "says." My saying is not aimed at anyone in particular, nor is it a command (nor even a request for people to behave a certain way), but just expressing my opinion, and I only do this masochistic exercise because I believe that the further away we can get from potentially endless disagreements or comparisons (see below), the closer we can get to finding common ground (if that is what we want).
Some (tongue-in-cheek) examples that could lead to potentially endless disagreements:
That's red.
Squares experience more existential angst than triangles.
[Drug] is better than [drug].
[Drug] should be used to treat [symptom or condition].
Verbs are better than nouns.
Tricycles are more sensitive than big wheels.
I suffer more than you.
My pain is more exquisite than yours.
My depressive condition is quintessential agony.
He should just cheer up.
She should just pull herself up by her bootstraps.Well, y'all get the idea. Let the attacks begin.
Shar
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