Posted by caile on December 12, 2002, at 22:26:45
In reply to Re: Question about friendship - need opinions » Krysti, posted by Kath on December 11, 2002, at 17:31:52
Hi,
I am going through a similar incident with a long-term (over 12 years) so-called "friend" who has been more of a drain on me than anything, yet I have trouble letting go because of sentimental reasons and because of the fact that I've had so few friends in my life. However, as time goes on I realize more and more that continuing with this friendship is a waste of time. As my boss said, "Poison friends are hard to get rid of sometimes, but when you break free, you'll be glad you did."Think about what's best for YOU. Does this friend provide enough positives for you to deal with the negatives? In my case, the answer was a resounding "NO!" The last incident that she really hurt me (as my maid of honor on my wedding night two weeks ago) was the last straw. She is manipulative, pushy, rude and basically a leech. Now I am avoiding contact with her at all costs. Not because I want to punish her, but because I just can't handle the anxiety/stress/depression that comes with dealing with her and this issue face-to-face. So, I'm just going to avoid her until she realizes it's over. I am not strong enough to do anything else.
This is not an answer to your question, obviously. It's just a post explaining that someone else is going through the same sort of thing. Maybe it will help in some way.
Good luck to you, regardless how you handle it.
Caile~
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