Posted by wendy b. on August 26, 2002, at 0:33:17
In reply to Re: Bored by people. » Heather66, posted by Medusa on August 25, 2002, at 13:05:43
At the risk of sounding not only boring but also stupid, what is DH (designated husband? dumb human?)?
I like this thread on boringness, I just wrote to Dreamer on 2001 about being bored by my own problems, but I'm not the type who often uses the word "bored," always believed there was too much of life that was interesting, so much to learn. I'm usually interested in lots of things... Just not interested in examining my own navel all the time.
But boring co-workers, now there's a theme... It's just an inability to do the small-talk thing, like, who wants to go around patting each other on the back all the time, lying to each other about how great everything is? I certainly never did. Confronted with others wanting to know how I am, I usually answer these fools with: "Well, how many hours do you have?" Say that a couple of times, that usually shuts 'em up. None of us depressed types really does well with regular office work, though. 9 to 5 is a killer of souls... Boring is what we're afraid of becoming. I just never wanted to do ANY kind of work long enough to get the watch, you know? Doing the same thing every day for 25 years... is it a bad thing to not want to fit into all of that? Just don't have the stomach for it...
boringly yours,
Wendy> > Ask me a question if it is relevant to work.
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> OMGOD, I'm the same way. My former boss took me aside and told me to just play the game, because a lot of people were just trying to be nice and couldn't understand my curt responses to their "how was your weeeeeeeeekend? SMILE SMILE!"
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> > every person I meet is COMPLETELY Boring and
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> yeah. even when I went to lectures and goal/subject-oriented 'social' stuff, I still met boring people. and the most full-of-themselves men.
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> sorry I'm not in a good space to ... I don't know what you wanted, maybe just to vent, so I can read vents, and I sure can identify. maybe don't go out - just give yourself the isolation you need, or if you don't need isolation, buy a book (anything interest you when you're depressed? right now I'm null) or something and ... I don't know , there are other ways to get needs met, besides being with all those boring people.
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> I've cut off most of my former friends. No reason. Just depression, and shame about depression. And a few of them are mad or hurt about that. And I've cut off intentionally a few who were BORING, whether I was depressed or not. But I still have to see some of DH's friends, well once in a while, and when he visited one couple the last time, alone, the wife pestered him about whether I thought they were boring. YEAH baby, you're not so stupid after all.
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> Boring is okay, if people own up to it, own it, live it. What drives me crazy is the bores who are convinced they're the most exciting, interesting thing on the planet. now THAT's boring. They keep insisting with their boringness. DH is not Mr. Adventure or anything, but doesn't pretend to be, and that's cool.
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