Posted by Greg on July 24, 2002, at 21:51:53
In reply to Lurking ex-boyfriend, posted by wendy b. on July 24, 2002, at 21:13:48
Wendy, Wendy, Wendy....
What WERE you thinking girl? This is your sanctuary. You should never give it out to a SO. There's always going to be a time where you're going to need to talk about them, bad or good, and you want that kept private between you and the other thousand friends you have here :)
My suggestion would be to keep your screen name unless it gets to uncomfortable for you. You can always change it and then e-mail all your friends (I'll make sure you have mine) and let them know what you changed it to.
As far as the lurking goes, man I just think it's sick. Is this guy over you? I don't want to freak you out but I really hope he's just screwing around. If he had really let go of the relationship, why would he care what you're posting? I mean I'm sure you're like a total babe and all (sorry, I have to throw in a sexist comment about once a year), but I'd watch this guy real close.
Maybe you ought to give that name change some thought....
Love to you and the little one,
Greg> Hi all,
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> Here's something I may have mentioned to some of you off-line, to see what you thought. I gave my ex-boyfriend information on Dr Bob's site, specifically the meds board, since we both were diagnosed with bipolar about 18 months ago, and we were on the same meds, etc. He surprised me a while back by telling me he had been tracking my messages on PSB, and I was a little sickened, knowing some of my posts were personal, about my love life, etc.
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> I thought he had lost interest in that, but he told me about a week ago that he's still reading my messages on the board, and I wondered if anyone would be kind enough to share their perceptions about it. Why he does this, I don't know - to find out about me, keep an eye on me, etc. Why else do you think he would?
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> I won't be the judge, I'd like my friends, and people who don't know me, too, sure, to weigh in on this type of behavior. You may suggest that I change my screen name, but that has its disadvantages in terms of people knowing it's me posting, and not someone new... We could debate that, but I'd appreciate comments on the lurking behavior itself.
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> Thank you,
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> Wendy
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