Posted by wendy b. on May 7, 2002, at 21:32:55
In reply to Skirts up! » wendy b., posted by Willow on May 7, 2002, at 7:20:31
> Now you are making me green with envy! How did you manage a younger lover, when I can't even catch one who is older? Hints welcome ...
>
> Whispering Willow
Dear WW, you rude girl, you,Hey, I don't wanna brag, but.... --
Oh, what the hell. I met this guy through my being a poor, single mom. I have a second job on alternate weekends at a winery (I live in the wonderful Finger Lakes Region of NY), alternate because this is when my daughter is with her father... and I found an employer who could accommodate my schedule. So I am working there one rainy Sunday afternoon, alone, when in walks this man with whom I hit it off, right away, talking together and pouring wine for him (drinking a little myself, although we're not supposed to drink with customers). We got along like we'd known each other forever... I had no idea he was younger than me by that many years - he's already starting to lose hair, on top of his head, anyway! - so I made an assumption that he was my age or about my age, silly. Asked him out for coffee, he accepted, we've been out several times since, the heat index is 'way up there...I know you live in Ontario, they have wineries... why don't you try it???
Seriously, another reason I took this job, as opposed to some other desk-type ones, was that I thought maybe I'd meet someone fun and interesting while there. And that's what happened, didn't even take all that long. Exactly one year ago, you may recall, I was suicidally depressed after being dumped by my then-boyfriend... One of the less favorable aspects of being a poor, alone, single mom and woman, you ain't got backup! i.e., you can get dumped at a moment's notice... Anyway, it's been a year since I've been with a man, and I'm proud to say I didn't forget how to do the important stuff...
The weird thing is (we call it: "When Worlds Collide"), he almost didn't stop at the winery that day, drove past it, realized he wanted to come in to try our red wines, so he doubled back and walked into my little life right there... It was also one of my alternate weekends, i.e., if I had been working there the weekend before or the weekend after, we might not have met. So kinda bizarre that way...
It's still early days, the shrink says go slow, but after a while, it seems a little artificial to NOT make love, if you know what I mean, holding back because your therapist says you shouldn't do anything impulsive can only go so far, I was a child of the '70s, etc., etc.
I did share with him during the first week that I am bipolar, did not phase him one little bit. I figure if someone can't handle it, I need to know right away, cuz who needs the aggravation? He admires me (! wow! how amazing is THAT?) and finds it great that I have brought it under control thru meds and therapy. Did explain to him that it can come creeping back with a vengeance, even when people have been in remission, as I seem to have been lately... He feels confident that it's not an issue (unrealistic?), at least he won't ever be able to say he didn't know about it going in.
Anyway, I could go on, boringly, for many pages... I am flattered you asked, Wonderous Willow... I used to catch older ones, but that was when I was 17... Slowly I worked down to someone my age (guy who dumped me), now this... Demographically speaking, this is good, no?
love,
your Feelin'Good Girl,
Wendy
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